The stories you hear, the news pieces you read, the personal experiences that surround you and your close ones, this is all what makes the basis of our thoughts and through them knowingly or unknowingly our thoughts are processed. Just the other day I wrote about time and how we don’t know how much time we have left. In a matter of days I heard of 4 young people dying, one because of the fault of a hospital, one due of heart failure and two because of road accidents. All these people were in their 20’s. Age is no longer the criteria mentioned for a long life. No assurances are given and no promises kept. Such is life’s way of keeping us on our toes.
Many people live their lives like it’s their last day on earth. Some live like they have all the time in the world. Some don’t really care. And some take everyday as it comes. Optimism is a good trait and we need to be prepared for anything in this lifetime. LIFE is very unpredictable, you never know what it can throw at you in a matter of minutes.
Taking this into consideration people sometimes make life altering decisions. Some quit their jobs and go to travel the world. Some try to do something substantial with their lives and try to build a future for their loved ones, just in case they are not here tomorrow. Some live for themselves and are there for their family and friends if and when need be. Each in their own way make an effort.
However close knit we are, we have to remember we come alone in this world and we go alone. No one will think of you IF you don’t think of yourself. However selfish this may sound but this is how it all boils down to these days.
The people in your lives, family will stick with you more or less if you’re lucky. But as for friends…
One day you’re strangers, the next day you’re friends, some friends stay for life and are closer than extended family, some become strangers again. Some people stay hiding in corners in your life, they come out to play hide and seek once in a while and therefore the kind of intensity you shared with them earlier dies away.
As the saying goes,
Some friends come into your life for a reason, others come only for a season.
Expectations, if too many create disappointments in life. It’s human nature to expect and sometimes you just can’t help yourself. If you don’t expect even the smallest non-expectant news will be a huge surprise in life then!
Reality has a way of bringing us back to normality in life. We keep getting reality checks and we keep on living and learning.
All these experiences make us who we are. So chin up and face life like today’s the only day you have! Unpredictable as life is we have to learn to pick up the pieces and start again, sometimes at the same puzzle and sometimes on another.
Do you feel you have stalkerish tendencies? I mean with social media and the world-wide web’s information at the tip of our fingers we can pretty much get any information about anyone we want to know or we already know. Have you ever felt that you like or you’re infatuated and want to know everything there to know about that person?
Do you go borderline psycho and want to know every move they make?!
Funny thing, This is a song of a stalker and many people, even I, always related to it as a love song. Such is the irony of life!
As a friend recently pointed out that there is a fine line between a lot of things.
- Having a crush and obsession
- Liking and Loving
- Loving and Hating
- Enjoyment and Addiction
What happens when we try to make someone the focus of our day and our life?
We tend to lose the whole objective of living life. Being Happy and content!
YeS! I agree this does bring us happiness but moreover self-induced sorrow.
Guess this is Part and parcel of life…The ups and downs / highs and lows…So on and so forth!
When life throws yorkers and bouncers at us, we need to duck them!( Heard this in a movie I saw recently.) Cricket philosophy at it’s best!
Most of the time people reciprocate the other person’s feelings but get put off with the intensity that’s thrown their way. Balance is the key in any situation as I have mentioned in my earlier posts. Balance is something we can’t handle when emotions get the better of us. BUT life is such that sometimes we need to handle the silence after the storm. The normal life after the exciting roller coaster ride we get got off from and can’t stop reminiscing about!
We have to TRY and sit back and enjoy the journey until we reach the destination.
Emotions are very tricky…That’s why they say you must not say anything when you’re high strung on extreme emotions.
Say only what you truly mean. BUT most times timing matters.
IF your timing of what you have said is wrong then you may not get the desired effect.
Time and Place for everything!
I hate playing games in life…I know it’s all exciting and all. I don’t mean video games… I mean MIND GAMES.
Playing hard to get is good but being yourself is the best version of playing life’s emotional game.
Please don’t become a different version of you and suddenly turn Halloweenish.
Sometimes I feel this is our own psychological way of getting rid of people or situations we’re scared to handle. The mind and heart have their own battle and suddenly decision is made to go on a self suicidal mission.
There should be a button where you can hit every time you want to self sabotage your own life!
Your friend or friends need to know of this button…They can hit you on your head or your ass and make you abort this dumb trip you have been ON! This button should also be used when we tend to over think, obsess, over analyse, assume or presume situations.
There should also be an internal timer that can help you slap your own face and bring you slow down and not take your brain and heart into overdrive. Get off that roller coaster and try to walk instead.
When we are born, we learn to crawl, stumble and walk, then walk and then learn to run. So need to apply that to emotional lives as well. Take every step and live life each day as it comes.
Anyhow, As I always say, Only YOU have the power to make the CHANGE you want in your life!
So laugh it off, try to curb your stalker tendencies, divert your mind and enjoy life as it’s meant to be lived. Be happy!
What is time? I’d rather not get into the technical specifications of time. I want to talk more about it in relation to how we look at it in our day to day lives. Do we live each moment as it’s our last or do we think there is always tomorrow? Do we try to make the most of our lives and be happy with what we have? There is nothing wrong in running after a passion or work but have you stopped to think if suddenly your life was to end, what would remain? Will you have time to even think what happened?
Time is something we cannot stop or hold in our hands, seconds turn into minutes, minutes in hours, hours into days- days in months, months in years and so on n so forth. This is for the lucky lot, what about the ones who don’t have months or years?
Don’t want to get you into a depressing frame of mind. I am also only trying to gauge along with you how time should matter to us. It’s not possible to suddenly realise and start doing everything you’ve always wanted to do and not leave it for the remainder years of your life. BUT what is possible is to try and cherish these days in a happier fashion.
We have such set norms and sometimes we try to stick to these norms and forget all about the basics of life. To me the basics of life revolves around happiness. This does not mean that I will always be smiling like a fool, no, I am human and I have my moods too. BUT I try my best to stay in a positive frame of mind.
Many people have told me you can think like this because of the life you have and lead. Even Kings and Queens have known to be sad even after being born with a silver spoon in their hands. It’s not always about what we have, it’s about how you look at what you have!
Time- Age- Distance…All these are numbers, I understand very important numbers but if it’s all going to end, it will in nano seconds, then nothing will matter! So make the most of life and cherish it with friends and family. No one knows what is to happen and it’s best left hidden.
I can only conclude by saying, STOP living life by what others want you to live it as, THIS life is yours…Do what makes you happy and in turn try not to hurt anyone intentionally!
Cheers n Stay well!
Well emotions can be very tricky. They can really let you have the upper handle if someone has feelings for you and sometimes push you off the cliff if you have them for someone. Having said that, it doesn’t mean it has to go the rocky way only, but; if anything goes into extreme it does tend to get a little weird.
Go with the flow!
Isn’t this the phrase we often tell ourselves when we start overthinking and speculating everything we do when we want to be at our best behaviours. We never keep telling ourselves this over and over again when we need to freak out or hit the panic button. But this needs to be done!
Does this really happen? If you want someone to like you, are you truly yourself from the beginning? I guess most of are, but is it really how we portray ourselves? We try to be at our best behaviour. We try to make an impression that the person we want to impress gets impressed. We do need to be ourselves. Remind yourself over and over again!
Now, there is nothing wrong in impressing the person we like, BUT in life as everything goes, everything needs a balance, we can’t always keep doing what we do and then think why is this not working? Don’t overdo anything that will make the other person or yourself run for the hills.
Balance is the key!
Now this is quite a tricky solution. Everyone thinks it’s super easy but it isn’t…Going into extremes is a lot easier. Having a balance is quite the roller coaster ride. Maintaining a balance is something of an art which needs to be learnt. Most people NEVER get it. BUT the key to anything in life is to keep trying and to strive to attain it.
Let the person be a part of your life and don’t make the person your life!
When we’re into someone, even if it’s a family member, we tend to make them our life’s project. I think that is where we go tumbling down the hill.
Everyone needs space and time to do their own thing.
Too much of anything, as said earlier- extreme, isn’t the right thing.
Space is so important & as they say-
Time and distance can make or break just about anything!
Life has so many facets and everyone of them need to be explored, we can’t let a few emotions get the better of us.
If you feel you’ve been slipping, well wipe that floor clean and get your act straight.
Try something that interests you and gets you back into living your life.
We have to try and not let our emotions get the better of us, emotions can make or break us, it is upto us to realise how to handle them and mould them in such a way to make us the person we truly are!
Strong, independent and we can pull through anything we put your mind and hearts into!
I can feel something anew,
I just can’t pinpoint it,
This feeling of rejuvenation,
The intense and sheer force of it,
I feel I might topple over,
The rush that it ignites,
The desire that it portrays,
Makes me dizzy with anticipation,
Want it to be real,
But I fear it’s just something that’s magical,
One second it’s here and the other it’s non-existional,
I don’t want this feeling to go away,
Yet, I know I have to be realistic.
One can never tell whats coming our way,
To feel this way is in itself is special,
I thank my stars for this experience,
I hope there is more to it’s existence,
I don’t want this dream to end,
I don’t want to open my eyes and shudder at it’s disappearance.
In this walk of life,
You will always be a key factor,
I have hardly known you but it seems I know you since forever,
I can feel this is just the beginning and not the end,
Just a dream, A dream of you…closer.
As the days approach for my return to the plains I have mixed feelings as usual… I love all the places I call home but I still am in search for the one true place I would call home. Home is where family is but why do I keep searching when I know I already am home?!
Where do you feel completely at home?
Is it the place which gives you peace of mind and warmth? Is it the place where friends meet and you find clarity within chaos. Or is it sitting with family watching mundane shows on the television? Do we find that home is where we meet like minded people and can feel that -YES! This is where I belong! Is home where you find a partner who you want to angrily strip into bits but on one blue moon day you find yourself snuggled next to and not want to be anywhere else?
Where is Home? Why are we always in search of a destination or a sense of belonging or someone to love. Why can’t we be happy where we are.Why can’t we be satisfied with the NOW instead of thinking of the future or reminiscing of the past days long gone.
I look at the picture above and the only thing that comes to mind is my nephew Yuvraj telling his mother, my sister, Dina: Look mummy, this girl is searching for her home. (Of course he said it in hindi. The boy loves and breathes our national tongue; at least as of now!)
I used to always look at the picture since the day I bought it and wonder why I see myself as the girl in the picture? His simple and innocent words have brought such depth and meaning to the picture that I can’t help but remember those words every time I see it, incidentally I have it at both my homes (rooms, in Nagpur and here in Wellington, Coonoor.)
I keep asking myself the same question over and over again. If I claim to be happy where and how I am, why am I continuously searching for someone or someplace? How can I want a home even though I am home!
Just like love can’t be explained in one definitive line, I feel home has various meanings too. One can have more than one home and that in itself makes us feel wanted and loved wherever we go!
Recently I attended the first literary festival at Ooty and I found a new sense of inspiration after I heard and met some of the authors. They are just like us but at still stand on an invisible podium that makes them the way they are!
Enigmatic,yet so humble!
Arundhati Subramaniam is one such lady (Author and Poet) who inspired me a great deal to carry on writing.She encouraged me to pursue my passion. I am eternally thankful for her to inspire me, give me the push I desperately needed.
And as usual, I am grateful to the universal power above for helping and giving me strength to where I am and feel happy about my life.
Cheers to life and to it’s ups and downs. These experiences and searching for where we belong, give us the power to realise our true roots.
Find one true mental state which helps us find home wherever we are!
Hey and a lovely Sunday afternoon to you all…Have you ever felt that however or whatever the case maybe that confidence in life plays a very important role? People can do the weirdest stuff in life and get away with it with their confidence. Anyway, I have started feeling that the way we look or the way we live our lives plays a top notch role for our confidence levels. If you are not sure of yourself, how can you expect someone else to have faith in you or for that matter like you? Confidence in yourself is VERY important. Sometimes we need to build it from scratch.
Also,when you’re not in your comfort zone confidence levels tend to waver. You are always confident with your own set of people and everything seems to be unicorns and rainbows.(At least for the people who really like their friends a lot!)
Meeting new people and trying to fit in can be a challenge. It’s not difficult but it’s not easy either. I guess one can say it’s takes a certain time frame to find that sweet spot to even things out.
It takes time to get to know someone. and YES! -confidence plays an important role even there! We need to feel that you are interesting and exciting for others to want to get to know you. If you doubt yourself in the process you’re digging yourself down the rabbit hole.
Confidence is a very tricky emotion. You have to deal with it and balance it out. Some people go overboard and are overconfident and some really let go and are not confident at all. As everything in life we need to find a balance and it’s very tricky to do so.
On that note…I shall confidently assume you guys like reading my ramblings. Please comment below and let me know if you would like to read anything in particular. I will try and do my best and write on that particular topic.
Enjoy the rest of today and don’t forget to enjoy life the perfect way- YOUR way!
Over and out for now.
Even so I keep wondering if you’ll stay with me till the end,
Life is so unpredictable, yet at times so simple to explain,
I’m happy where I am but you’re like a missing piece from a beautiful puzzle,
Without that piece the picture isn’t complete,
That tiny piece makes the incomplete- whole.
Happiness is a state of mind, but we can seldom figure out the heart,
It alone knows what it wants,
And when it wants it just keeps on wanting,
The trick is to go with your instinct along with the flutters against your chest,
Life is so short or so they say,
It’s not the life span that matters but how you’ve lived it,
Quality over quantity,
But I beg to differ,
Who wants to live short?
Atleast I don’t,
My life isn’t and won’t be complete until I’ve found you!
It’s been a lovely lazy misty day here at Wellington and I have been meaning to write on this topic for sometime now. So here goes…
Do you like when everyone around you likes you and wants to get to know you? I mean come on- I am sure there are very few people who don’t care and even if they show that they don’t care, I am sure they like it when people care.
Anyhow, I have self analysed myself to be have an obsessive compulsive need to get in touch with the people I meet or try to be in regular touch as and when possible.
Well, to term it as good or bad I leave it to you to figure that out. I feel most times it’s a plus point for me but sometimes it makes me feel/ look needy and vulnerable. I mean come on, why can’t people just be themselves, why the constant need to play games?
I know to have a simple life would be boring but why does it have to be complicated when it comes to being normal and yourself?!
Anyhow, each one to themselves. I have this very bad feeling when people don’t like to connect back or don’t bother if anyone connects with them.
Have you guys seen the episode of F.R.I.E.N.D.S where Monica is so upset when she isn’t liked by someone around her. She goes out of her way to be liked. I am not like that but yes it does bother me a little if and when people act aloof.
Hmmmm… So I need to get over this weird obsession. If someone doesn’t want to or don’t care enough to be in touch, I should just learn to let it be. Ignore…they don’t deserve my presence in their lives.
I am blessed with my family and friends who love me to bits. That should suffice me. Taking baby steps at trying to rectify my faults.
Also, have you guys ever felt that you should learn to say NO ? I mean I deal with that a LOT. Sometimes I just can’t say NO and I really need to deal with the consequences then!
So here’s to trying to better ourselves each day and thanking the universe for this gorgeous life! Cheers!